Some people use MySpace
to network; after all it is a social networking site. several people use it to keep in touch with old friends and maybe try and make some new friends un the process. Then there are people who use MySpace to date; which is normal if you're into internet dating. And last but not least, you have the "winners" who use MySpace to find people to mess around with or cheat on their significant other with. All in all, everyone has their own agenda for joining a social networking site.
However, there are tons of unsuspecting people who are oblivious to what their significant other does while they're on these sites. I have comprised a few ways to detect whether or not your significant other is being sneaky on MySpace.
Before I get started, I have some advice for the women out there. Just because you are dating a guy, it doesn't mean that you and he are exclusive. If you decide to change your status to "in a relationship", before you guys make anything official, then you're not too bright. You can't get upset with him if he still has himself listed as "single". Please take note that just because a guy is listed as single, it doesn't mean that he isn't dating anyone.
Top Friends:
If you have your guy/girl on you top friends list and they don't have you on theirs, then there's a problem. If you're not on their top, then your guy or girl is either ashamed to claim you, ashamed to be with you or they aren't being completely faithful to you. Ask yourself the following question: why does he have all his friends and random other people on his top and I'm nowhere to be found? If he/she can come up with a logical explanation for this, then they are probably just a really good liar or manipulator. MySpace allows you 40 slots for your friends, there's no excuse not to have your significant other on there.
Status/Looking For:
If your significant other has their status set to single, then that should be a huge red flag. Most people will try and give you this garbage explanation: “Well, having single on my page is good for my image.” Don't believe it. There are tons of actors and musicians who are in relationships and their image is just dandy. I understand not wanting to have random people in your business, but when you have single on your page, you are giving off the vibe that you are indeed single. If anything, having single on your page brings you more attention and more people trying to talk to you.
Another thing to look for is if your guy/girl has their status as "in a relationship", but they still have everything checked off in their "motive" section. I have heard many excuses for people doing this. The most popular is as follows: “Well I don't want people in my business, so I just checked everything off” This again is just some inane excuse so they won't get caught. If someone can't respect the fact that you are in a relationship, then you ignore them. If that doesn't work, then you block them. Also you can easily hide your details section with a simple HTML code. If your partner has given you any of the above excuses, then they are either ashamed of being with you or cheating on you.
Pictures:
Now if you and your special someone have been together for only two weeks, and they don't have a picture of you in their album, then that is totally understandable. If you and your significant other have been together for months, weeks or years and he/she still doesn't have a picture of you, then there's problem. If their album is filled with pictures of their other friends, then there's no reason why you shouldn't be there also.
I am not saying that he/she needs to have their album or page flooded with pictures of you. But there should be at least one picture of you in their album. I have seen girls who have loads of pictures of their guy in their albums, but if you take a look at their boyfriend's page, the girl is nowhere to be found. Common sense should tell you, that there's something wrong if you have pictures of him and he doesn't have any pictures of you.
Comments:
If your guy/girl has their settings set to "approve before posting", then there's nothing wrong with that. However, there is something wrong if he/she doesn't approve all of your comments. If you've tried to leave your honey a comment about seeing them, loving them or missing them and they never approve it or they later delete it, then something is up.
You should definitely be worried if your partner accepts sexual or adult comments from other random people, all the while not accepting yours. Another thing to look for is if your boyfriend or girlfriend leaves everyone else comments and they never leave you any. I understand that some people aren't affectionate, but if they can leave one of their friends a comment, then they can leave you a comment just to check up on you.
Overall, I am not saying that your significant other needs to have you plastered all over their page. I am not saying that they need to shower you with affection every single day. Let's face it, if you guys don't work out; then it is really embarrassing to go from flaunting your relationship all over the place to stripping your page of any and every memory of that person. I am saying that there is no excuse for not claiming the person that you're with; if they love you, then there should be no problem.
If you don't want people in your business, then put your profile on private. No one in this world has the privacy that they desire. If you and your significant other have some type of understanding as to why they aren't claiming you, then good for you. But believe me when I say, that secretly claiming a person never works; jealousy always shows its ugly head.
If you're that overly concerned with hiding your relationship and keeping your privacy, then stay away from social networking sites period.
