The Art of Making Friends

By now most of us have received at least one or more messages in our inbox with links to check out other users’ work. Many people get annoyed quickly, and wish for a spam button in our community section.

Yes, Triond is a great place to publish work, and it is much easier than before to send messages to other writers on the site. However, there are quiet rules that applied in this situation. Not only on Triond, but anywhere on the internet, you need to know the art of making friends.

Exposure

So you have your work published, do you want to have exposure to your article? The first thing to do is spending times getting to know other writer’s work. For example, if you have a poem published, check out other poems on that same site, and leave comments. It doesn’t mean that you should only check out the “Popular Writers”. You can click on Authspot.com and find many other writers or poems. Your time is valuable to you, so is theirs! Your work is important to you, so is theirs.

Be a Friend First

As in any relationship or networking, you have to be a friend first. Carve out time to build a list of friends. Find people who have the same interests. By adding people to your profile, without even bother to check out their works, or commenting on their works, will yield little success in becoming friend with them.

Do Not Send Links in Message

Do not send your links of work to people’s inbox. It gets old very fast. Put yourself in other’s people’s shoes. Would you like to open your account and found a bunch of links from people you don’t know? Exactly!

Do Not Leave Comments with Links

You have to admit, it is cheesy to leave comments with your links! It is a scream: “I check you out, now you must return a favor!” Maybe they will do just that, return a favor, but not establishing a supportive relationship. You will lose a potential really good friend. You will be on the ignored list in the future!

Do not Submit Everything You Write

If you have a StumbleUpon or Digg account, do not submit everything you have published all at once. Your page will become an easy target to be marked as spamming! I found this out a hard way.

Helpful Resources on Triond

• Marketing for Beginners: Social Bookmarking Basics — Nelson Doyle has written a series of informative articles from writing and marketing if you want to know more.
• Buried! Are You Spamming?— This is a must read article for all users on Triond! As many of you already realized, Digg has an auto-buried for many of Triond’s websites.
• How to Get on Triond’s Hot Content List— Of course if you write, you want your article to hit the front page, and this article offers many helpful tips.

I had received many nasty comments on my poetry page lately, using language that is too dirty to even mention. That is fine because there is a delete button that I can use.

If I have offended anyone by not adding you to my friend’s list, please understand that I do not have all the time in the world. If this offended you, and bring you to leave nasty comments, then keep on doing so. I get the page view, and will delete your comment, and you are wasting your time!